As dad, you are one of the most influential role models in your children’s lives – whether you like it or not! What you do (or don’t do) will have a direct effect on the choices your children make. If you are a separated parent, this does not lessen your impact – in fact, your children may even give more weight to your values. When learning as babies and infants your children see what you do and want to copy. Later on, when your children start to form values and forge identities of their own, they’ll either still be copying - or they’ll want to rebel! Either way, you are still an influence.
Do as I doDon’t fall into the trap of advising your child of one thing – and then behaving in a way you have asked them not to. A ‘do as I say, not as I do’ attitude won’t get you very far! If you like to drink in moderation, then be honest about the pros and cons. If you abstain, explain your choice – but try not demonise drink (remember that teenagers are programmed to rebel!)
Are you drinking too much?Be honest with yourself. Could you cut down on your drinking? Do you get irritated if people comment on how you are drinking? Do you ever feel bad or guilty about drinking? Are you a fan of ‘hair of the dog’?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the above questions, you might need to look at how much you are drinking.
You can be a great role model by taking responsibility – and showing that you are willing to take control of your drinking. There are a range of information and advice services that can help you. Don’t be ashamed to ask questions – get help early and you will be able to sort out your drinking before it becomes a real problem.