Now the big event’s come, and you’re left with a bouncing baby (or babies), it might take a little while to get into an every day routine. You and your partner might be busy with the little one, but your thoughts will sure enough turn back to getting busy. With things all helter-skelter, you might find that you and your partner have trouble finding ways to be intimate and romantic. Here are some top tips for igniting that loving feeling again, with diving straight into the full monty.
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Massage. Make a massage a special event by buying some scented massage oil—cinnamon and orange is a classic, though many women might prefer something a little less pungent. Light some candles, play some groovy tunes, and rub each other sensual. Note: to warm up massage oil, pour some in your hands and rub them vigorously together. Do not (repeat: DO NOT) put it on the hob. Kitchen fires can be hot but they are definitely not sexy!
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Music. Remember when making a mix tape for someone was the ultimate way to show you cared? Well, maybe you and your partner could spend an evening (quietly) going through your music collections and playing music that’s special to you as a couple. This is more about romance and less about sex, but intimate times are sexy times!
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Showers/Baths. It’s something you have to do anyways, so why not make it sexy? You can’t really say that about clipping your toenails. Try washing each other’s hair (and bodies!) and taking your time—you can do this when your baby’s asleep for the night, or during nap time. Afterwards, you’ll feel clean and warm, and who knows what’ll happen…
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Date night. Sometimes the sexiest and most romantic thing is just to spend time alone together, with dinner, music and conversation, at home or at a special bistro or café. So, if you can, maybe you and your partner can leave the baby with a family member or trusted sitter, and get to know each other again, date-style.
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The baby in the room. If your baby sleeps in your room, you might feel more comfortable and relaxed having sex in another room, or by moving your baby. Think of it this way—you can make love all over the house, like newlyweds, teenagers, or randy pensioners.
Of course, these are all things you can do in those small spaces while your baby asleep, or with a trusted carer. Your baby will benefit by being in environment with lots of love and cuddles. For more information about when’s the right time to start having sex after birth, check out our articles
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