We know you’re a busy dad on the go, so here’s a quick list of eight need-to-know tips for having sex after birth. For more information, check out our articles on
Sex after birth: Getting in the mood and
Sex after birth: is it okay? But for now here’s the brief down and dirty:
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When is it normal to have sex after she gives birth? Some couples wait for the all clear from their GP at the six-week check up, some couples start making love after a month and tell their GP about any problems they have, and some couples wait six months or even a year before having sex again. The short answer: Whenever you both feel ready.
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There’s no hard and fixed golden rule that everyone follows. Again, it’s whenever you both feel ready. But she made need time to physically heal, especially if she’s had stitches or major bruising—so when it feels right for you to make love, try a position that keeps pressure off of any sore spots.
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Can we have oral sex? Giving oral sex to your partner can lead to infections or air embolisms, so you should avoid going down on her for two to three months after the baby’s arrived. It's fine for her to pleasure you though if she want's to.
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She might not feel very sexy; she might feel exhausted or stretched out. So remind her that she’s a yummy mummy!
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Don’t take rejection personally. Try not to be resentful or hurt if she’s not that interested in making love just yet.
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Try to regain that loving feeling by trying massages, music nights, taking showers/baths together, or going out on date nights.
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Remember, you can be intimate without going all the way. You don’t have to dive into the deep end right away.
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The baby in the room. If the baby sleeps in your room, you might be more comfy and relaxed if you make love in another room, or move the baby to another room.